One of the most lucrative markets in the consumer internet has been online dating. And one of the most successful players over the years has been It's not difficult to see why: plenty of people are willing to pay for a chance at a date and has been successfully charging for them for more than a decade.

But business isn't so easy today. Newer competitors, many of them free, have gained traction, and one, Plentyoffish, is, according to comScore's numbers, the most popular dating site in the world. Apparently doesn't like that.

The company questions many of the claims he makes on the Plentyoffish site. For instance, finds it hard to believe that Plentyoffish members will go on 18m dates this year, was responsible for 500,000 relationships in 2007 and receives 20,000 signups each day.

So Marshall Dye,'s general counsel, sent a letter to Frind telling him so. "Based on my knowledge of the industry, these claims cannot be supported and are misleading and/or false," he writes. And then he makes a bold demand: get rid of these claims, unless you can provide evidence that they're real. Not comfortable doing that? will sign a confidentiality agreement to get the proof.

I for one have no idea whether or not the claims that Frind makes on Plentyoffish are legitimate or not, but's approach to competition is, for lack of a better word, strange. For starters, it's not clear that even has a right to demand that Frind 'put up or shut up'. If claims made on Plentyoffish are misleading or false, one would assume that a government agency, such as the U.S. Federal Trade Commission or Canada's Competition Bureau would be a better place for to lodge a complaint.

But even then, trying to rat a competitor out to regulators usually isn't a very productive long-term business strategy. Sure, you might get lucky and hurt the competitor in the short-term, but when your business is at risk of falling behind due to broader market forces, it's probably far wiser to focus on what counts: product and innovation.

Here, it seems apparent that is worried about its market position and that Plentyoffish's success is bothersome.

Perhaps there is a legitimate point to be made about some of Plentyoffish's claims, but it's unclear what stands to gain from threatening Plentyoffish's owner. That certainly isn't going to help it compete more effectively against newer competitors, many of whom are trying to build businesses around 'free'. And even if was successful in getting its rival to remove some of its claims, it's hard to believe that would have any impact on Plentyoffish's usage.

The bottom line is that competition is rife in most online markets, especially on the consumer internet. At some point, businesses need to make a decision: are we going to worry about something we largely can't control (what the competition is doing) or are we going to worry about something we can control (what we're doing?). The answer should be an easy one.

Photo credit: pedrosimoes7 via Flickr.

Patricio Robles

Published 29 April, 2010 by Patricio Robles

Patricio Robles is a tech reporter at Econsultancy. Follow him on Twitter.

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Comments (5)


John Gallen

Gas, sounds like a relationship tiff between relationship sites. How petty !

about 8 years ago

Geoff Andrews

Geoff Andrews, Lead Generation Manager at Kumon Educational UK

Interesting to see feeling the heat. I'd imagine they are much more at threat from emerging dating sites that are targeting niche customers... i.e. over 60's dating sites

about 8 years ago



Who -- or what -- is Frind?

about 8 years ago



Absolutly disgracfull that these multimedia sites should milk the lonely people in this world, these sites should be absolutly free,We pay for our internet sites, as we pay for our telliphone, why shoul'nt we have the right to seach for people that are lonely as we may be, without having to pay these billionars,     

almost 8 years ago



A WARNING ABOUT SITES LIKE MATCH.COM. allows people who do not live in town, who are of wrong age, who are married or otherwise in relationships to date on its site. So they may not be thieves but they are looking to take ADVANTAGE OF WOMEN.

I have noticed that since 2009 a lot of men who would have actually used prostitutes have moved to sites like to find sex and they will lie through their teeth to get it. I know one guy who actually put down he is 44 but is actually 51, wants kids but doesn't, doesn't live in the location his profile indicates, has been incarcerated, and generally has a pretty incorrect profile. Also he is in a relationship with another woman in the city he actually lives in. All of this I reported to they will not shut down his profile. They continue to keep it up...knowing that the entire profile is a lie.

I think specifically has become a magnet for men who were otherwise no longer able to afford prostitutes and now come to the site for the same...only they pay 10th of the price and lie to the women to take advantage of them.

Online dating...especially are the way of now. Any decent person who is looking for a real relationship...BEWARE!!!

If the man is an American, I suggest you do a complete background check on site where you can find out the real age, if they are married, if they have a criminal background or otherwise are lying about where they actually live. It costs about $12 and is worth every penny!

over 7 years ago

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